Top
Welcome to your hub for all things Holistic care

Black Moms Blog Feature

Originally published and written for Black Moms Blog

 

My journey began in 2014. Well, it was technically 2013 when the first healthcare professional dismissed my concerns and told me “there is nothing I can do for you- your  hormones just have to regulate.” I had made the decision to stop taking the Depo shot, after experiencing several side effects including hypertension (high blood pressure) and weight gain. I’d already worked really hard to lose > 60 pounds, just for it to pile back on while on the shot. I went to the doctor because I was constantly bleeding/spotting and after researching causes, I felt like I was displaying symptom of PCOS (Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome.) He dismissed me.

So, when I got married in 2014, and we wanted to have children, I realized that pregnancy wasn’t “just happening” for me the way that people said that it would. I decided to go and see another provider. She told me to just lose weight. She dismissed my concerns about possibly having a hormonal imbalance that made weight loss difficult. She refused to do an ultrasound to observe my ovaries. She told me my only option was to start birth control again, even after hearing that I had experienced extreme hypertension when on birth control twice before. She told me that the only way I would have kids was with the assistance of birth control.

I wish that I was alone in this experience, but because of racism this is more common in Black women – being dismissed, symptoms and pain ignored, and receiving poor care.

I left her office feeling defeated and like a disappointment as a woman. I lived in a rural area, and it seemed as if I could not find a provider that would listen to me. I had no choice but to begin researching online to find something that could help me. In the meantime, I prayed & started fasting and started believing God for a miracle in healing and for a baby.

Turns out, I was on a journey. I discovered the power of fasting and a plant based diet. I was blown away. I had no idea how much food and products I used on a day-to-day basics impacted my health! I studied success stories of natural healing, herbs, dietary changes, ANYTHING that could help. I went vegetarian and starting seeing results in losing weight- but still no baby.

Thankfully, at this point we relocated to Atlanta and I was able to find a an office that had doctors that were trained in plant based eating and holistic healing.  Here is where I found hope again. A doctor that LISTENED TO ME! I found a doctor that was willing to listen to my concerns, run labs, do ultrasounds and see past me being an “overweight black woman.” Someone that wanted to get to the root of the issue, instead of just prescribing something. He recommended that I try going vegan after doing an few diagnostic procedures and giving me an official diagnosis of PCOS, endometriosis and infertility.

I was devastated by this diagnosis, yet hopeful because I now knew what was wrong. I surrounded myself in online support groups because it seemed taboo to talk about these things in the Black community. I continued to learn more and more about holistic healing. I began taking herbs for fertility, I was using castor oil packs and doing my own womb massages to speak life and love back into my womb. I spent time fasting as a raw vegan and doing monthly juice fasts to detox and reset. I watched my body go from overweight, tired, sluggish, filled with anxiety and depression to someone that had hope, life and energy again. I saw how I went from days and days of painful cycles- so bad I could only lay on the floor in the fetal position to being able to hike Kennesaw Mtn while on my cycle pain free! Above all else,  I had faith that God was going to perform a miracle in my life.

In October of 2017, my life changed forever! After all those days of believing for a miracle, I got proof! We naturally conceived my miracle baby boy, and on June 4th, 2018 we welcomed him Earthside! I’m so thankful for his life, and I pray daily that our story gives women HOPE that it CAN happen regardless of what doctors have said.

I hope that my story sheds light on a few topics, and encourages you to

a) advocate for your health- find providers that listen, and fire the ones that don’t.

b) look into holistic healing

c) know that even a diagnosis of PCOS or endometriosis or infertility can be defeated!!!

If you are a woman battling any of these things, I would love to connect with you! Sending you love, healing and hope!

Disclaimer

*Disclaimer* Products are not designed to diagnose or cure aliments. All products have been researched to reduce symptoms. Herbs are not FDA approved. Recommendations are based on information given. I am not responsible for reactions or misinformed purchases. I am not a doctor, and I am not pretending to be one. I advice through experience and research.

Client Love

Raven Thomas helped me in my TTC journey by giving me knowledge on what was actually going on with my body... Read More...

Vanity Shelton

Raye The Doula
5
2016-05-03T18:07:52+00:00

Vanity Shelton

Raven Thomas helped me in my TTC journey by giving me knowledge on what was actually going on with my body and helping me understand my hormones. She educated me on hormone imbalance and the negative affects  that it  has on the body. Raven's  outstanding wisdom lead to me getting pregnant. She walked me through my pregnancy with healthy ways of eating,books and managing my emotions in a healthy way to promote a wonderful stress free pregnancy. During my Postpartum phase she answered all of my questions for breastfeeding, and how to still rest with multiple kids for recovery, any issue I had she made sure she gave me the emotional support as well as a game plan to overcome my issues I was having. I highly recommend her for all of your Doula needs and brestfeeding services. She has such a heart for women and wellness!!
Raven was amazing, she helped me with my cyst and bacteria infection. She knew EXACTLY what I needed to address... Read More...
Raye The Doula
5
2020-03-23T03:49:19+00:00
Raven was amazing, she helped me with my cyst and bacteria infection. She knew EXACTLY what I needed to address each issue. She made sure I had everything I needed. Even when I arrived at the store, I called her to make sure I had the correct items... she answered right away and clarified that I had everything. She checked on me every few days to make sure my issues was getting taking care of. I highly recommend a session with Raven for any holistic womb care, health, holistic medicine, etc. thank you Raven so much! Love you
If you’re wondering whether or not you can receive quality care from a doula even if it’s just virtually the... Read More...

Mrs. Adara Sherron

Raye The Doula
5
2016-05-03T18:05:39+00:00

Mrs. Adara Sherron

If you’re wondering whether or not you can receive quality care from a doula even if it’s just virtually the answer is yes. Raven provided vital information on what I could expect, request, decline, and more throughout my pregnancy experience. The actual doula I chose to contract here in New York where I live is everything Raven told me I should have in a doula. When had my virtual consultation with Raven, she was polite, informative, reassuring and even answered my million questions. I think a virtual consultation is key for anyone who is unsure about what doulas do and who they are—and if doulas aren’t readily available in your area having the consultation helps with your search. If you are looking for someone to help you choose the right doula service, and you’re not able to meet in person, I would highly recommend having a consultation with Raven. Simply put, she is amazing. - Mrs. Adara Sherron First time mom to a baby girl.
Raye the doula was everything I needed this first time around breastfeeding. I’m a mom of 3, ages 3,2, and... Read More...

Larisa Cleaves

Raye The Doula
5
2016-05-03T18:24:44+00:00

Larisa Cleaves

Raye the doula was everything I needed this first time around breastfeeding. I’m a mom of 3, ages 3,2, and now a 9 week old baby boy. I didn’t get the opportunity to have such an empowering, and proactive lactation specialist with my first two. I have inverted nipples but now they both are completely pulled out. The techniques she gave and advice are exactly what I needed. Before, I started using her- in my 1st week postpartum, I got mastitis, I had a fever and more... Raye provided that’s when I was able to get some good advice and support about relieving the clogged milk ducts and gave me help positioning to make breastfeeding easier. Once you get that infection, you feel horrible, but she helped make the experience as comfortable as possible. Don’t miss out of booking her, even if you may not have any problems with breastfeeding like I did. As a postpartum mom, you always need someone in your corner to assist and be there for you. Get a team and on your team have her, Raye the doula. Larisa Cleaves, Mom of 3, Wife, Business Owner
5
4
Raye The Doula